Power play

Who has the power in relationships? And does it matter? I was always a stickler for equality in relationships, for two people to be perfectly harmonious with each other in terms of decision making. But I am finding out that in any relationship, there is a power struggle at play, always. If you concede something as you may want to compromise, you may feel like you are relinquishing some of your power. And if you don't indeed have to compromise you might feel like you are taking all the power. By voicing what you want you may come out too harsh or direct. By not voicing it you might feel depleted and unsatisfied. Must it always be this way? Or is it simply me? It's not that I am addicted to power-on the contrary! I simply seem to have a hard time gagging if I am too much or not enough. If you call a guy after having spent the night together, you might seem needy. If you don't call, it may seem like you don't care. You may want to take the lead, but how can you do it in a way that is not overbearing?As I am moving deeper into adulthood, I find myself navigating uncharted waters. As I get to know myself better, I am also left with a plethora of questions. Must we be selfish and care less about the feelings of others? If you have answers hit me up. Let's discuss. Enlighten me. xox